When was the last time you were kind to yourself? And I do not mean “I bought myself flowers” kind or “stayed in bed because I had a mental breakdown” kind-of kind to yourself. Those are bare necessities. Things we should have learned to implement in our daily lives by now, since we live in 21st century. But when was the last time you were genuinely kind to yourself? When instead of passing the mirror, you stopped and said to yourself: “You’re doing great girl!” “You are just fine.” “You look amazing.” or “I love your smile!” Women are so focusing on being the perfect wives, exceptional moms who manage everything with near perfection, keeping our work-life balance, trying to fit whole weeks schedule in one day etc. that they barely have time to stop and look back. Just a never-ending to-do list with chores, “musts” and duties.
And then we expect others to appreciate what we are doing. We want everyone to notice how much we try to be the best versions of ourselves, how much we have accomplished in our twenties, thirties or whatever -ties. Stronger, better, faster. And when nobody notices (because they are so busy of trying to reach their nearly impossible goals) we feel like failure, that we haven’t been good enough. But when did you stopped and made note to yourself? Clapped on your own shoulder and felt amazed by how much you have already managed? Said thank you to your body who still carries you around on your crazy journey? If you haven’t done that – how can you expect someone else to do that? So stop whatever you’re doing, find the nearest mirror, look yourself in the eyes, like – really look into your eyes (do not start thinking about cleaning the mirror) and say Thank you. To yourself. For being you. For never stopping. For everything.
And then you can go on with your life. And maybe, if you remember that between all your tasks – stop and say something good to some other amazing women. Because they keep forgetting to be kind to themselves. And we keep waiting that someone else will notice.